Definition
We feel appreciated when others notice and value our efforts, and express gratitude or recognition.
>> Why We Have This Emotion
When we feel appreciated, we know where we stand and trust that things are fair. That kind of recognition brings people closer and motivates them to keep pitching in.
◈ How It Shows Up
“You noticed that? Thank you”Shoulders drop, stress easesEnergy to do even moreAccepting praise without deflectingSharing credit freely with others
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Ask “what should I keep doing?”
- Savor the praise for a moment
- Express appreciation for others
- Ask what specifically was valued
- Balance external / internal praise
- Clarify expectations for the future
- Log moments of real impact
Bad Ideas
- Dismiss all praise as “manipulative”
- Deflect or minimize praise
- Interpret neutrality as rejection
- Tie self-worth to external approval
- Compare yourself to others
- Overwork to “earn” praise
- Fish for more praise