Definition
We feel attracted when we desire to be near someone and spend personal or even intimate time with them.
>> Why We Have This Emotion
Attraction directs our attention and energy toward potential partners. It makes us more impulsive, heavily skewing our decision making toward novelty and initiating connections.
◈ How It Shows Up
“I can't stop thinking about them”Eyes linger, half-smileButterflies, warm flushFinds excuses to be nearMirrors their gestures
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Pace your actions on mutual cues
- Be ready to accept “no” gracefully
- Set your boundaries ahead of time
- Clarify your intent before acting
- Ask for clear, enthusiastic consent
- Pay attention to red and green flags
- Share feelings honestly, no pressure
Bad Ideas
- Ignore consent cues, boundaries
- Use alcohol to lower resistance
- Love-bomb/manipulate for intimacy
- Share private info without consent
- Race into making commitments
- Neglect your values to keep them
- Mistake lust for compatibility