Definition
We feel cognitive dissonance when information or beliefs we hold are in conflict with each other.
>> Why We Have This Emotion
Cognitive dissonance signals that we have an internal inconsistency. It motivates us to seek coherence by changing our beliefs, updating our stories, or adjusting our behavior.
◈ How It Shows Up
“This Doesn't add up”Defends, then doubtsTense jaw, restless shiftingAvoids facts that clashRewrites story on the fly
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Write conflicting beliefs side-by-side
- What evidence is there for each?
- How does each align to your values?
- Identify social pressure for each
- Talk it through with a neutral person
- Admit, “I was wrong,” when needed
- Accept uncertainty when adjusting
Bad Ideas
- Deny evidence to protect your ego
- Treat the world as black and white
- Cherry-pick only confirming facts
- Attack messengers instead of ideas
- Lie to avoid facing contradictions
- Numb discomfort with compulsions
- Let your beliefs win “just because”