Definition
We feel grateful when we appreciate what we have or someone has done something to positively benefit us.
>> Why We Have This Emotion
Gratitude strengthens our bonds with others by encouraging reciprocity and reinforcing trust. It also tunes our internal reward systems to appreciate the things that we have, and not take those things for granted.
◈ How It Shows Up
“I really appreciate this”Hand to heart gestureMoist eyes, soft smileWarm tone, earnest wordsReaching out, thanking
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Name the giver and the benefit
- Say thanks specifically
- Keep a list of what you're grateful for
- Do a quiet favor for someone
- Share a win, and credit helpers
- Tell someone “you matter because”
- List gratitude items before bed
Bad Ideas
- Keep your gratitude private
- Assume others know you're thankful
- Offer only generic thanks to others
- Feel guilty for having good things
- Tell others to “just be grateful”
- Expect a reward for all kind acts
- Slide into Comparative Suffering