Definition
We feel lonely when our need for interpersonal connection isn't met and we feel apart from others.
>> Why We Have This Emotion
Loneliness signals we don't have the support we need. It pushes us to bond, repair ties, and rejoin groups if possible. It encourages us to seek social support, which is key for our safety, resources, and wellbeing.
◈ How It Shows Up
“No one gets me”Quiet house feels loudCraves voice, avoids callsHeavy evenings, long sighsWatches, not included
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Send one honest text to a friend
- Schedule a brief call with a friend
- Join a group around shared interests
- Work or read in a public place
- Do a small kindness for someone
- Plan one social activity for this week
- Get involved: class, charity, sport
Bad Ideas
- Compare your life to social media
- Treat neutral behavior as rejection
- Cling to unhealthy relationships
- Sleep to avoid waking loneliness
- Work to avoid emotional discomfort
- Use alcohol to escape feelings
- Stalk friends without reaching out