Definition
We feel rejected when we're pushed away or excluded by someone we hoped would accept us.
>> Why We Have This Emotion
The pain of rejection highlights our own social exclusion. It can motivate us to change our behaviors, adjust our boundaries, or make new friends to restore our sense of belonging.
◈ How It Shows Up
“They don't want me”Sting in chest, wincePulls back, goes quietReplays the noAvoids asking again
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Text a supportive person
- “Not every 'no' is about me”
- List three people who value you
- Adjust your behavior, not identity
- You assumed a reason. Was it right?
- Do one healthy activity for yourself
- “I may not fit, but I still have worth”
Bad Ideas
- Beg repeatedly for another chance
- Take a single “no” as global rejection
- Insult them to protect your ego
- Stalk them for reassurance
- Make drastic life changes out of spite
- Vow never to be vulnerable again
- Seek “rebound” attention from others