Definition
We feel resigned when we lose confidence that we are able to change or affect a situation.
>> Why We Have This Emotion
Resignation can help us conserve our energy when change is truly unlikely. It reduces conflict and enables us to adapt to constraints or shift our focus to viable options.
◈ How It Shows Up
“It is what it is”Shoulders sink, flat toneStops arguing or tryingQuiet acceptance, dullPlans fade out
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- List what you can & can't control
- Clarify your non-negotiable values
- Focus on daily routines you can steer
- Get input from a trusted friend
- Choose one area to deprioritize
- Choose a new area to invest energy where returns are real
Bad Ideas
- Interpret all setbacks as “fate”
- Stay in clearly harmful situations
- Withdraw from those who could help
- Let others make all decisions for you
- Avoid advocating for yourself at all
- Adopt a “what’s the point?” attitude
- Assume that you'll always fail