Definition
We feel schadenfreude when we feel happy or amused by something unfortunate that has happened to someone else.
>> Why We Have This Emotion
Schadenfreude is our inner scorekeeper enjoying a status reset. Someone has come down a notch, releasing the tension of comparison or threat.
◈ How It Shows Up
“They had it coming”Snort-laugh at their slipSecret glee, quick hideShares the fail clipGuilt nips, still amused
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Notice the impulse, name it
- Acknowledge their humanity
- Apologize if you gloat or mock
- “What personal insecurity does this highlight in me?”
- Empathize: remember your own mistakes and failures
Bad Ideas
- Humiliate or broadcast others’ pain
- Justify “they totally deserved it”
- Bond with others via trash-talking
- Replay their gaffe for entertainment
- Use this to feel morally superior
- Mock them to boost your status
- Insist you're “just being honest”