Definition
We feel a voyeuristic thrill when observing others’ private moments without their knowledge excites us.
>> Why We Have This Emotion
Most of us have accidently witnessed someone else’s private moment. It can be thrilling, but we need to be cautious not to seek that thrill by violating the privacy and trust of others.
◈ How It Shows Up
“I shouldn't watch this”“Look what he’s doing!”Peeks through fingersHeart races at being discoveredWants details, stays hiddenShame tugs, curiosity wins
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- “Everyone deserves privacy”
- Delete any accidental images
- Pick consensual, ethical media
- Look away as soon as you realize
- Redirect to other thrilling activities
- Leave the area if you keep glancing
- Imagine how you'd feel in their place
Bad Ideas
- Save, share, or trade those images
- Share others’ private information
- Snooping into private accounts
- Justify that “they'll never know”
- Record others without consent
- Ignore others’ vulnerability
- Ignore guilt or legal risks