Definition
We feel vulnerable when we're exposed to possible harm or rejection and we don't feel in control.
>> Why We Have This Emotion
Vulnerability is an evolved “slow down and seek safety” state. It can feel uncomfortable, but it encourages us to connect with others and make careful choices when we feel exposed.
◈ How It Shows Up
“This might sound stupid but...”Protective body languageHyper-awareness of others reactionsDisclaimers to preempt judgmentAsking for confidentiality
◎ What to do in the moment
Good Ideas
- Set a boundary, if needed
- Distinguish restlessness and fear
- Choose a safe person to share with
- Accept you have partial control
- Use this vulnerability to grow
- Eat, hydrate, sleep
Bad Ideas
- Shut down completely
- Numb out with substances
- Test others with indirect hints
- Overshare with unsafe audiences
- Criticize yourself for weakness
- Seek constant reassurance